Very few people realize that the choice you make in the person you marry is undoubtedly the single most important choice you can ever make in your life.

EVERY…SINGLE…MINUTE of the rest of your life will be affected by the level of comfort and happiness your marriage provides. Your mood, your health, your motivation, your sleep patterns, your outward demeanor, the choices you make, and your overall comfort level in life will all be directly linked to how well you get along with your spouse. That person is the one person in this world you absolutely must get along with if you have any hope for long-term comfort, happiness and success.

Society believes that no two people will be absolutely compatible and some differences and incompatibilities are normal and unavoidable. You need to realize how damaging that belief will be to your life. If you choose to marry someone even though you know you have personality differences or other issues in your relationship, you will bring the frustration and unhappiness caused by those issues into your work life, your free time, and your general interactions with other people.

Over time, those small frustrations will grow. You’ll expend energy trying to find ways to solve your problems and waste time fighting an uphill battle against fundamental personality differences and beliefs that simply won’t change.

Dealing with those fundamental differences and resultant frustrations on a repeated basis will keep you from spending quality time with family and friends, will affect your productivity at work, and will lessen your enjoyment of your hobbies and interests. Struggling against those things will suck your energy, exhaust you mentally, sap your motivation and affect how you react to unrelated stimuli from the world around you.

Society has convinced you that those differences and problems between spouses are normal. Relationship experts go so far as to tell you that the frustration, anger, arguments and missteps caused by those problems are inevitable.

SOCIETY AND ALL THOSE EXPERTS ARE WRONG IN THIS BELIEF.

Don’t put yourself in a position where you have to struggle to get along with the one person you are supposed to love above all others. Make sure absolute compatibility is the foundation upon which you build your relationship and be smart enough to get out a relationship if you discover fundamental differences in personality, goals, hobbies or any other important factor that will affect how you live your life moving forward.

Regardless of how many people in our society tell you those things are normal or inevitable, should you choose to stay in a relationship fraught with incompatibility, those incompatibilities will undoubtedly become the problems that divide you down the road. They will negatively affect every aspect of your life.

Avoiding those problems isn’t impossible, it is a simple choice.

Don’t allow yourself to settle for a relationship with glaring incompatibilities just because so many other people have before you. Ignore the example all the mediocre relationships you’ve witnessed have taught you. Don’t define them as normal.

If you understand exactly who you are and what you want out of life, and then you focus on finding someone who wants all the same things, you can have the perfect life and marriage all those others in society say are impossible.

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