truth and relationships

Here’s a quick reference guide for this site.

You will find tabs if you scroll to the top of this page that allow you to click on links to other posts.

1. How to Improve Your Relationship is a step by step instructional discussion of what to do today if you want to begin to improve your current relationship and uncover the reasons for your difficulties.

2. I Wish I Could Dissolve Every Marriage – This is a discussion of why we as a society believe all marriages will have difficulties. If we could start over with only perfect marriages as our benchmark, would more people be able to find them?

3. Is Change Inevitable? – People believe change is beyond their control. As a result, they allow their lives and decisions to be adversely affected by undesirable changes without understanding what those changes really are or how to take control of them.

4. Life Cancer – Incompatibilities between you and your spouse cause a slow deterioration of your life that is destructive. Eventually the results are devastating. This post is a discussion about the symptoms, causes, and the cure.

5. My Letter to Relationship Experts – After 3 rounds of marriage counseling in a 10 year period my life and marriage were worse off than I was before going to counselors. This post discusses why their recommendations actually hurt my chances at happiness.

6. Should You Listen to Me? – I’m not a counselor. I’m just a man. I was married, I got divorced and then I got re-married. The reason I did it is because I figured out what was wrong with the way most people search for a spouse and I changed the process. I’m now in a perfect marriage and have a life better than most people out there. Would you rather listen to counselors who tell you to accept and deal with problems for the rest of your life, or would you rather listen to someone who doesn’t have any?

7. The “Noble” Struggle – Many married couples believe they are setting a good example for others if they fight for their relationship and refuse to get divorced. Even if they have significant problems that routinely cause issues for them, these couples believe staying married is noble. I believe that these couples set a horrible example for all who observe them and define them as normal.

8. Top 10 Lists – People love reading top 10 lists. Unfortunately, many of them don’t give you any real or usable information that can help you now. I’ve put some together that can.

9. Why Am I Here? – This is the same as the posting above this site map.